Before turning 40...
We all have this preconceived notion of where our lives will be when we’re 40. Do we all get the life we want by the time we’re 40? Probably not. Too many life turns ago you should have done this when you did that and here you are… 40 and wondering how you got to be 40 without accomplishing your life goals.

Instead of resolutions on New Year’s 2008 I made goals for my 40th year. Resolutions are too hard to keep. But goals, definite goals I wanted to accomplish this year, those seemed more achievable. So I wrote down my goals and got to work on them, but I didn’t share them with you or anyone. I felt if I was the only one who knew what my goals were then I was the only one disappointed if I didn’t accomplish them. I tried to keep my list of goals reasonable and obtainable because I didn’t want to fail.

My goals for my 40th year were different than they were 20 years ago. Let’s face it, I can’t go back and re-do all the different turns I’ve made in life that got me where I am today. I can only move forward from here. “Keep moving forward…” Walt Disney’s motto has really inspired me this year to just keep moving on and make my dreams come true.

How am I doing on those goals you ask? Well, I’m on the cover of two erotic fiction books, I have an erotic fiction short story being published in one of the books and I’ve almost bought my first home. Those are just three of the goals on my list, there are still more goals to accomplish so I’ll keep moving forward.

Whatever your life goals may be before turning 40, marriage, children, owning a home, a rewarding career or running a marathon… keep moving forward.

Labels: 40, goals, just keep swimming, Keep moving forward, resolutions, turning 40

  posted by Matildakay at 4:14 PM 2 comments

Packing makes it real...
The physical act of packing boxes this weekend was the first thing in the buying a house process that has actually made it seem real. I hate packing, moving and unpacking. I hate the whole moving process, but this time its different. This time I’m not moving because I’m getting divorced and can’t afford the place my ex and I shared on my own. This time I’m not moving because the owner of the house I’m renting decided to move back in. No, this time I’m moving because I’m buying a house of my very own.

I have to tell you the tedious chore of packing boxes this time felt sublime. Every box I pack gets me a little bit closer to owning my own home. A little bit closer to the most adorable house I will live in since moving out of my parents house many years ago.

I seriously can’t wait.

Don’t get me wrong, I still don’t like packing and moving. It’s just that moving is a happy event this time around.

I thought I would start with something easy for my first official day of packing, my office. Books are easy to pack, right? The books were easy to pack, but I had forgotten about the filing I’ve let pile up and the large pile of receipts that needed to be shredded. Two days, ten boxes of books and three trash bags of shredded paper later everything worth keeping has been filed and put away. I should really be more organized and not let things pile up! All I have left to pack in my office is a few office supplies, small electronics and my computers.

The mountains of paperwork that seemed daunting at first became a steady beat of motion as I rocked out to George Michael (I do love my gay pop stars!) and kept the shredder going non stop. Out with the old and in with new experiences! I chanted as George Michael sang Freedom!

My next packing challenge is my DVD collection. I wonder how many, is too many DVDs?

Labels: buying a house, filing, Freedom, George Michael, Keep moving forward, moving, office, packing, paperwork, receipts, shredding

  posted by Matildakay at 10:40 AM 1 comments

Starting from here…
To quote Robin Slick’s blog today, “If you only knew all the reasons I have not been blogging…”

There has been quite a lot going on in my life lately. It’s been hard for me to keep up with everything and unfortunately my blog has suffered.

Unlike Robin, the fabulous comedic erotic fiction writer, who didn’t divulge all the reasons she hasn’t been blogging, I’ll tell you what’s been going on with me.

In the last few weeks or so, I’ve been negotiating a deal to buy my very first home. Who knew that buying a house was so stressful. Back and forth with the offers and counter offers, the inspections, closing costs, the money and the anxiety. Is the deal going to go through or not? And the paperwork! My goodness. All this work to be more in debt than I’ve ever been in my life. In fact making this big of a financial decision on my own has been quite difficult and very stressful. My parents and friends have been supportive but in the end I’ve had to make these decisions on my own.



When it’s all said and done I’m sure the money, the debt and all the stress of the last few weeks will be worth it when I finally own my own home. I just keep telling myself to be brave. To just go out there and do it. To make my dreams come true.

And then in the midst of all the house stress, my assistant at work quit. If I worked for a big company, this wouldn’t be a big deal. But I work for a small company and her quitting was huge. Not only was my work load going to double, I now had to hire and train someone else to replace my assistant who had been with the company for five years.

Did I say I’ve been under a little stress lately? Ha!

We received 400 resumes in response to our ad for a new assistant. 400 resumes! I have to review 400 resumes and find the 10 best applicants to interview! Oh and I have to do all of my work and my assistant’s work too while running around like crazy trying to get everything done on my house deal.



Can you say MIGRAINE!

And if that wasn’t enough to do, I’ve been preparing my taxes and a friend’s books for his taxes and meeting with tax people. And once I finish Noveltown’s sales tax return I don’t want to hear the word tax again for a while. I don’t like paying taxes anyway. The IRS already punishes me for being single with no dependents. I pay more taxes out of my check than anyone else in my office. (I only know this because I do payroll).

With the house, the assistant who quit, and the taxes, I’ve had a hard time keeping up with everything. I’ve tried. But at the end of extremely stressful days all I’ve wanted to do is come home curl up on the couch and lose myself in dvds. I’ve watched some really good movies these last few weeks, but unfortunately I haven’t had the energy to write in my blog. At first I tried to keep up, but it was a losing battle.



I’ve posted March’s wild words from wild women quotes, you can go back and read them if you want, some really great women had some really great things to say. I also posted a few photographs. At this point, I’m just going to call March a wash and start from here…

I’ll be blogging again even though I’m busy. Did I say busy? I still have to pack and move!

I just have to remember to breathe, take one day at a time and keep moving forward.

Labels: buy a house, debt, dreams, housing market, Keep moving forward, mortgage, taxes, work

  posted by Matildakay at 11:49 PM 2 comments

Keep Moving Forward...
Walt Disney’s motto was “keep moving forward”. In 2008 I’m making it my motto too. So rather than keeping with my past tradition of looking back on the previous year’s ups and downs, favorite blogs and photos, favorite moments, statistics and thank you’s; I’m going to keep moving forward. 2007 is in the archives on the sidebar if you feel the need to look back.

I began to take stock of my life late last year and I realized a few things about myself. Mostly that I do a good job of taking care of others but I need to take better care of myself. In 2008 I plan to do just that.

I’m going to toss out the broken fairy tales and make my life what I want it to be.

Diane Keaton said:

“When I was younger I had these enormous vanities about what I expected from myself. I’m glad to have a comfortable and fascinating life, but now I see it for what it is, so I can be braver and more spontaneous and say to myself, ‘Oh, screw it, just go out there and do it.’”

I think she summed up where I am right now in my life. Her life may be more comfortable and fascinating than mine, but I can be braver and more spontaneous and say, “Screw it, just go out there and do it.” I can take risks.

If there is one thing I’ve learned from Heath Ledger’s recent tragic death, it’s that life is too short to keep waiting for some day. In 2008 I want to make some day, today.

In 2008 I’m going to turn 40 and celebrate being the woman that I am. But I’m not stopping there. I’m celebrating all women on my blog by posting inspiring and irreverent quotes from the world’s most famous and infamous women. You may have noticed some of the quotes already. Hopefully these wild words from wild women will inspire you as much as they do me.

You’ll notice I haven’t mapped out my plan in detail for you. I’m keeping the details mine for the moment, but will reveal things as they happen. I’m already hard at work on a few things. I’m just going to go out there and do it. I’m going to keep moving forward.

Labels: 40, daily quote, Diane Keaton, Disney, famous, Heath Ledger, infamous women, Keep moving forward, Walt Disney, wild women, wild words, Wild words from wild women

  posted by Matildakay at 1:31 PM 0 comments